Judy Imeson

CREATE SOME SERENITY in YOUR LIFE

1.  ACCEPT WHAT YOU CANNOT CHANGE or CONTROL

"In our quirky journey through life, there's a hilarious twist; the art of accepting what we cannot change or control.
It's like trying to teach a cat to fetch – futile, yet oddly entertaining.
So, let's liberate ourselves from the absurdity of trying to wrestle with the unchangeable.
Embrace the serenity of acceptance, and remember, sometimes laughter is the best response to life's curve balls!


2.  PRACTICE FORGIVENESS (Let Go of Any Animosity)

This is a deeply transformative act that involves letting go of animosity and embracing compassion and understanding.
It's a process that not only heals past wounds but also cultivates inner peace and emotional freedom.
By choosing to forgive, you liberate yourself from the burdens of anger, resentment, and bitterness,
allowing space for healing and growth to occur.
Moreover, forgiveness is a profound expression of empathy and humanity,
as it acknowledges the flawed nature of human beings and the complexities of interpersonal relationships.
In essence, forgiveness is an act of courage and strength, a conscious decision to transcend grievances
and embrace the power of love and reconciliation.

• Acknowledge Your Feelings
  Recognize and accept the emotions you are experiencing, whether it's anger, hurt, or resentment.
  Allow yourself to feel them without judgment.

• Understand the Situation:
  Try to understand the perspective of the person who has wronged you.
  Consider what might have led them to act in the way they did.

• Empathize
  Put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to empathize with their feelings and experiences.
  This doesn't mean condoning their actions but rather understanding them.

• Release Resentment
  Holding onto resentment only harms yourself. Make a conscious decision to let go of negative feelings
  towards the person who has wronged you.
  This doesn't mean forgetting what happened but rather choosing not to dwell on it or let it control your emotions.

• Focus on the Present
  Shift your focus away from past grievances and instead concentrate on the present moment.
  Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.

• Practice Self-Compassion
  Be kind and compassionate towards yourself throughout the forgiveness process. Understand that it's okay to feel hurt,
  but also recognize your own strength and resilience.

• Communicate (If Appropriate
  If you feel comfortable and it's appropriate, consider communicating with the person who has wronged you.
  Express your feelings calmly and assertively, focusing on finding resolution rather than blame.

• Seek Support
  Don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist if you're struggling to forgive.
  Talking to someone you trust can provide valuable perspective and emotional support.

Forgiveness is a process and it may take time.
Be patient with yourself and trust that with practice,
you can cultivate a sense of peace and serenity within yourself.

3.   PRACTICE MINDFULNESS (Be Mindful of Those Around You)

Practicing mindfulness is a holistic approach to living that emphasizes being fully present in the here and now.
It involves intentionally directing your attention to your current experience, including your thoughts, feelings,
bodily sensations, and the environment around you.
When you practice mindfulness, you strive to observe these aspects of your experience with curiosity,
openness, and acceptance, without judgment or attachment.

Extend this awareness beyond your own internal experience to include the people in your immediate vicinity.
It means actively acknowledging and considering the presence, needs, and experiences
of others in your interactions and surroundings. 

• Listen actively
  When someone is speaking to you, give them your full attention.
  Listen without interrupting, and try to understand their perspective without immediately formulating a response.

• Observe non-verbal cues
  Pay attention to the body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice of those around you.
  This can provide valuable insight into how they are feeling and what they might need.

• Practice empathy
  Put yourself in the shoes of others and try to understand their emotions and experiences.
  Show compassion and kindness towards them, even if you may not fully understand what they're going through.

• Be respectful
  Treat others with kindness, respect, and dignity.
  Be mindful of how your words and actions might impact those around you,
  and strive to create a positive and supportive environment.

• Stay present
  Resist the urge to judge or criticize others, and instead focus on being present in the moment.
  Engage fully in conversations and activities without getting distracted or preoccupied with other thoughts.

• Express gratitude
  Take a moment to appreciate the people around you and the positive contributions they make to your life.
  Expressing gratitude can strengthen your relationships and foster a sense of connection and belonging.

Mindfulness and being mindful of those around you, can cultivate deeper connections,
enhance your relationships, and contribute to a more harmonious and compassionate community.

4.  MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF (No one Else Can Do It For You)

Taking time for yourself is crucial for maintaining mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
Think of it as a necessary recharge for your human batteries.
After all, even the most high-tech gadgets need to be unplugged and left alone for a bit to function properly.
And let's face it, if your phone can survive without being constantly connected to the charger, so can you!

• Schedule it:
  Just like you would schedule any other appointment or commitment, block off time in your calendar dedicated solely to yourself.
  Treat this time as non-negotiable.

• Set boundaries
  Learn to say no to commitments or activities that don't align with your need for personal time.
  It's okay to prioritize yourself.

• Find activities you enjoy
  Whether it's reading, painting, hiking, or simply meditating, engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation.

• Unplug
  Disconnect from technology and the outside world during your personal time.
  This allows you to focus on yourself without distractions.

• Practice self-care
  Take care of your physical and mental health through activities like exercise, mindfulness, and getting adequate sleep.

• Reflect
  Use some of your personal time for self-reflection.
  Journaling or simply sitting quietly can help you process your thoughts and emotions.

Remember, prioritizing yourself isn't selfish; it's necessary for overall well-being.
By making time for yourself, you'll be better equipped to handle the demands of daily life
and be more present for others when needed.

5.  TRY DEEP BREATHING MEDITATION

Deep breathing meditation is a wonderful practice for promoting relaxation, reducing stress,
and enhancing your overall well-being. At the end of a busy day, quiet your day with some deep
breathing meditation. It will also calm an increased heart rate.
I do this every night before I go to sleep. and more often than not, it puts me to sleep.
Here's how I do it ;

• Find a comfortable seated position or lie down on your back
  with your hands resting gently by your sides or on your abdomen.

• Close your eyes if you feel comfortable doing so, or soften your gaze.

• Begin by taking a few natural breaths, simply noticing the rhythm and sensation of your breath
  without trying to change it.

• Once you feel settled, start to deepen your breaths. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose,
  allowing your abdomen to expand as you fill your lungs with air.

• Pause for a moment at the top of your inhale, feeling the fullness of your breath.

• Exhale slowly and completely through your mouth or through your nose,
  allowing your abdomen to contract as you release the air from your lungs.
  Note:  I prefer inhaling and exhaling through the nose ; it's less distracting
  Simpler is better (It's a small thing but a huge difference to my focus)

• Pause for a moment at the bottom of your exhale, feeling the emptiness.

• Continue this pattern, focusing on the sensation of your breath as it moves in and out of your body.

• If your mind starts to wander (which is natural),
  gently bring your attention back to your breath without judgment.

• Practice for as long as you'd like, aiming for at least 5-10 minutes to start.
  As you become more experienced, you can gradually increase the duration of your meditation sessions.

Deep breathing meditation can be done anywhere and at any time,
making it a versatile tool for managing stress and finding inner calm.

6.  TOUCH or HUG A TREE

Touching trees, often referred to as "tree-hugging" or simply connecting with nature,
has been reported to offer several potential physical benefits as well as psychological benefits.
Although the physical scientific research on this topic is still developing., the psychological benefits have
been supported by research and observed anecdotally

• Physical benefits:

  •  Grounding: 
    Connecting with the Earth's energy may reduce stress and anxiety.

  • Immune function:
    Exposure to phytoncides released by trees could potentially boost the immune system.

  • Inflammation reduction:
    Tree contact may help reduce inflammation in the body.

  • Mood improvement:
    Interacting with nature, including touching trees, can lead to better mood and overall well-being.

  • Blood pressure regulation:
    Spending time in nature, such as touching trees, may help lower blood pressure.

  • Sleep enhancement:
    Being in natural environments and touching trees may contribute to better sleep quality.

• Psychological benefits:

  • Stress reduction:
    Nature contact, like touching trees, has been shown to lower cortisol levels and promote relaxation.

  • Mood enhancement:
    Spending time in nature can increase positive emotions and decrease negative ones.

  • Mental clarity:
    Being in natural settings, including touching trees, can improve focus and cognitive function.

  • Mental energy restoration:
    Interacting with nature can reduce mental fatigue and improve overall cognitive function.

  • Mindfulness promotion:
    Touching trees encourages present-moment awareness and mindfulness.

  • Anxiety and depression alleviation:
    Nature exposure can help alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression.

  • Resilience building:
    Connecting with nature may improve resilience and coping skills in the face of stress.

In summary, touching trees not only provides physical health benefits such as immune support and improved sleep,
but it also promotes mental well-being by reducing stress, enhancing mood, and fostering mindfulness and resilience.

7.  WALK BAREFOOT in the GRASS  (Grounding)

Walking barefoot in the grass, also known as "earthing" or "grounding," is a practice believed by some to have various health benefits, such as reducing stress, improving sleep, and promoting overall well-being. When you walk barefoot on the earth, you connect directly with the electrons on the ground, which may have positive effects on your body's electrical balance.

If you have access to a safe, clean area of grass, walking barefoot can be a simple and enjoyable way to reconnect with nature and experience the soothing sensation of the earth beneath your feet. Just be sure to choose a grassy area free of harmful chemicals or sharp objects, and enjoy the sensation of being grounded in nature.

Grounding Mats (Sheets, Pads, etc.)  are a popular alternative for those who can't walk barefoot outdoors
due to seasons, weather conditions, or other constraints.
These mats are typically made of conductive materials, such as carbon or silver, and are connected to the ground
via a wire that plugs into a grounded electrical outlet.
The idea is that the mat allows you to connect with the Earth's natural energy indoors,
providing similar benefits to walking barefoot on the ground.

Here are some key points to consider about grounding mats:

           .  Benefits:
                Grounding mats are often used to promote relaxation, reduce inflammation, improve sleep quality, and enhance overall well-being.
                Some users report feeling more balanced and energized after using grounding mats regularly.

           .  Design:
                Grounding mats come in various sizes and designs, including mats that you can place under your desk while working,
                larger mats for use while sleeping, or even mats designed for use during yoga or meditation.

            .  Safety:
                 It's essential to ensure that grounding mats are used safely. Make sure the mat is connected to a properly grounded electrical outlet
                 to avoid any risk of electric shock. Additionally, check the quality and materials of the mat to ensure they meet safety standards.

            .  Effectiveness:
                 While many people report positive experiences with grounding mats, scientific research on their effectiveness is still limited.
                 Some studies suggest potential benefits, but more research is needed to fully understand the effects of grounding mats on health and well-being.

            .  Availability:
                 Grounding mats can be found online or in some health and wellness stores. When purchasing a grounding mat,
                 be sure to read reviews and choose a reputable brand to ensure quality and safety.

If you're considering using a grounding mat, it is always a good idea to consult with a healthcare professional,
especially if you have any underlying health conditions or concerns.
They can provide guidance on whether grounding mats may be suitable for you and how best to incorporate them
into your wellness routine.

8.  APPRECIATE the SYMBIOTIC RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN ANIMALS and TREES

The symbiotic relationship between animals, including humans, and trees is essential and fascinating.
Trees produce oxygen, provide habitat and shelter, offer food sources, and support soil health,
benefiting a diverse array of animal species.
Animals, in turn, contribute to seed dispersal, pollination, and nutrient cycling, fostering the growth and regeneration of trees.
This mutual dependence underscores the interconnectedness of life on Earth, highlighting the need for conservation efforts
to preserve this vital relationship and ensure the well-being of both animals and trees.

• Oxygen Production:

  Trees are vital for producing oxygen through photosynthesis. Animals, including humans,
  depend on this oxygen for respiration, making trees essential for our survival.

• Carbon Sequestration
  Trees absorb carbon dioxide, a greenhouse gas, from the atmosphere, helping to mitigate climate change.             
  This process benefits animals by reducing the impact of climate change on their habitats and ecosystems.

• Habitat and Shelter:
  Trees provide habitats and shelter for countless animal species, including birds, mammals, insects, and fungi.             
  Forests support diverse ecosystems, offering food, nesting sites, and protection from predators.

• Food Source:
  Many animals rely on trees for food. For example, fruits, nuts, seeds, and leaves from trees are important dietary components
  for numerous species, including primates, birds, and rodents.

• Mutualistic Relationships:
  Trees form mutualistic relationships with various animals.
  For instance, some animals aid in seed dispersal by consuming fruits and then spreading seeds through their droppings,
  helping trees to reproduce and regenerate.

• Soil Health:
  Trees contribute to soil health by preventing erosion, enhancing nutrient cycling, and promoting microbial diversity.
  Healthy soils support a variety of animal life, from earthworms to larger mammals.

• Cultural and Spiritual Significance:
  Trees hold cultural and spiritual significance for many human societies.
  They are often revered as symbols of life, wisdom, and connection to nature,
  enriching our emotional and spiritual well-being.

• Economic Benefits:
  Trees provide numerous economic benefits to humans, including timber, medicine, food products, and recreational opportunities
  such as ecotourism and outdoor activities.

9.  GET BACK to NATURE

Getting back to nature can mean different things to different people,
but here are some general ideas to help you reconnect with the natural world:

• Spend Time Outdoors:
  Take regular walks or hikes in parks, forests, or other natural areas. Spending time in nature can reduce stress,
  improve mood, and increase feelings of well-being.

• Disconnect from Technology:
  Try to limit your screen time and take breaks from electronic devices.
  Instead, focus on engaging with the sights, sounds, and sensations of the natural environment.

• Practice Mindfulness:
  Pay attention to your surroundings and try to be fully present in the moment.
  Notice the colors, textures, and patterns in the landscape, as well as the sounds of birds, rustling leaves, or flowing water.

• Gardening:
  If you have access to outdoor space, consider starting a garden.
  Growing plants can be a therapeutic and rewarding way to connect with nature, and it doesn't require a large plot of land
  —container gardening or even a few potted plants can be just as fulfilling.

• Wildlife Watching:
  Take time to observe and appreciate the wildlife around you.
  This could involve birdwatching, identifying different species of plants and animals, or simply sitting quietly and observing the natural world.

• Outdoor Activities:
  Engage in outdoor activities that you enjoy, such as camping, fishing, kayaking, or nature photography.
  These activities allow you to immerse yourself in nature while also pursuing your interests and hobbies.

• Nature Art:
  Use your artistic talents to capture the beauty of the natural world.
  Whether you prefer painting, drawing, photography, or another medium, creating art inspired by nature
  can deepen your connection to the environment and provide a creative outlet.

• Conservation and Restoration:
  Get involved in conservation efforts or volunteer for organizations that work to protect and preserve natural habitats.
  Participating in restoration projects can help you give back to the environment while also fostering a sense of stewardship and responsibility.

Remember, getting back to nature is not just about physical proximity to natural spaces. 
It's also about cultivating a deeper appreciation and connection with the world around us.
Take the time to slow down, observe, and engage with the beauty and wonder of the natural world.